What Customer Service Skills Are Most Valuable?


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At Impact Learning Systems we’re frequently asked which skills are most valuable for customer service — and most essential to include in a customer service training session. The honest answer is this: Skills are of secondary importance.

I know that sounds somewhat counter-intuitive, but here’s why it’s true . . . The most important aspect of providing good customer service is attitude. Attitude pervades every part of the customer service interaction and is the foundation upon which all the skills are built.

Adopt a Customer Service Attitude

Consider this: A customer service representative says the right things and transacts the business with efficiency but also with an air of indifference (or worse). Are you satisfied? No! Like everyone else, you expect to be treated with courtesy and respect.

On the other hand, if a customer service provider shows a sincere willingness to serve and makes an earnest attempt to get it right but misses a few of the key skills, are you satisfied? In most cases, yes.

Customer service — whether that means selling shoes or fixing phones — is an intrinsically rewarding profession. The people who understand this fact are the ones who excel and who help to distinguish their company from its competitors.

Over the years, I’ve heard countless clients say that when hiring employees they value a candidate’s service-oriented attitude far more than technical skills or even product/industry knowledge. This is because they have learned from experience that the skills and the procedures can be taught; attitude has to come from within.

I could go on and on about the importance of attitude, but since I included “customer service skills” in the title of this post, I would feel remiss if I didn’t identify what I feel to be some key skills in customer service. After all, a good attitude may be essential, but it can’t stand alone.

There are about 20 key skills featured in Getting to the Heart of Customer ServiceTM . Following are my picks for three of the skills that tend to distinguish stellar customer service providers from their more ordinary peers.

#1 Positive language

Positive language is the art of using words and phrases to create a positive image in the customer’s mind-with an emphasis on what can be done, not on what cannot. Using positive language shows a willingness to serve and a commitment to building customer loyalty. It’s especially important to use positive language when saying no or delivering bad news to a customer.

Following are two examples of a customer service provider conveying the same message with and without positive language.

Example 1

Without positive language: “You have to take the system offline before I can make the repair.”

With positive language: “In order to make the repair, I need to temporarily take the system offline. This prevents permanent loss of stored data.”

Example 2

Without positive language: “I can’t get you that product until April; it’s backordered.”

With positive language: “That product will be available in April. I can place the order for you now and make sure the product is sent to you as soon as it reaches our warehouse.”

#2 Listening

Customers need to feel that they’ve been heard and understood, and that doesn’t happen without good listening on the part of the customer service representative. I’m not sure I’ve ever consulted in a customer service environment in which I didn’t recognize poor listening as a strong contributing factor to poor performance (and by extension, poor service).

Following are three keys to good listening in any customer service situation.

  1. Focus. (This is the hardest part!)
  2. Listen for key facts and key feelings.
  3. Take notes. (Nobody has as good a memory as he or she wants to believe.)

#3 Confirming satisfaction

Another key skill in customer satisfaction is confirming satisfaction before ending the transaction. This skill demonstrates to the customer three important things:

  • That you care about getting it right
  • That you’re willing to keep going until you get it right
  • That the customer is the one who determines what “right” is.

Confirming satisfaction also accomplishes a smooth, subtle shift in “ownership” of the issue. When the customer says in his or her own words, “Yes, I’m satisfied,” the transaction is complete and successful—in the customer’s mind as well as in yours.

Republished with author's permission from original post.

Vasudha Deming
Vasudha Deming is a consultant and author lucky enough to get paid for doing something she loves: helping businesses to thrive by putting values into action. She also organizes athletic races, service projects, community events, and anything else she can get her hands on. When it all gets too stressful, she heads out the door for a long-distance run.


  1. Great read! I personally would put listening as the number one skill. The majority of the time the callers more or less need to vent and need to feel as though they have been heard. I would also add that disgruntled callers want to feel as though it’s not just them and that the issue is being worked on, even to the extent that their continued business and input is valuable. These customers need to feel like they made progress when they hang up the phone. using phrases like “I’m so glad that you called to notify us of this issue” or “I understand why that would frustrate you, I’m looking forward to resolving this issue in a timely manner”.

    I also want to mention that when someone calls in and asks for a specific service..by listening to their needs you may be able to identify a more cost effective plan. By offering a more cost effective plan without being prompted gains a loyal and happy customer which I will assure you will lead to word of mouth referrals.

    I will pay more and go farther for better customer service. If I get a rude secretary who treats me as though I am disturbing her…I will not return to that company and I will share my experience with others. If I get poor customer service from any department I make noise. Mind you..I am extremely customer service oriented and have very high standards!!

    Treat others the way you like to be treated.


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