What Occurred Over The Last Week
It occurs to me that I have not been well for at least a week. Almost every night for at least the seven days my sleep has been fitful and I have been luck when I have been able to get 3 – 4 hours of interrupted sleep. Some nights I have slept downstairs so as not to disturb my wife.
I ate one light meal on Monday. I ate one light meal on Tuesday. I ate one normal meal on Wednesday as I was really hungry. Shortly thereafter I found myself in the bathroom throwing up. I ate a light meal on Thursday. And I ate nothing on Friday lunchtime even though I was hungry and my two colleagues did their very best to persuade me to eat something!
In amidst all of this: I turned up at client sites to join my colleagues and do the work that was necessary; accepted the responsibility for generating the structure and writing most of the final presentation deck (40+slides); worked at least 8 hours a day whilst often in pain or just uncomfortable; and sat amongst my colleagues on Friday whilst the three of us finalised and delivered the final presentation to our client. Once it was all finished, I told one of my colleagues that I was looking forward to going home, eating something, and resting.
Why did I not chose the easier option of just calling in sick? In fact, my wife seeing my state encouraged me to take care of my health: phone in sick, visit the doctor, rest-recover and then get back to work.
Please notice that nobody had to devise mechanisms (rewards and punishments) or engage in propaganda (empty misleading talk in tune with most marketing communications) to get me motivated and engaged. I did not do what I did because of fear of punishment. I did not do what I did because of money – bonus. I did not do what I did because someone was call me onto the stage and say great words about me and hand me trinkets.
Why Did I Do What I Did?
I did what I did because it was never an option to let my friend and team leader (Richard Hornby) down! I knew that there is nobody else (with the appropriate skills) available to take over that work that is my domain – except for Richard. And I knew that Richard was already overstretched due to working on multiple engagements. I did what I did out of love:
“What we will do for love will always be far more powerful than what we will do for money. What we can do together will always be far greater than what we can do alone.” Pavithra Mehta
Money, no amount of money, can buy genuine care-love-meaning-community. And that is what most, or at least many, of us yearn for, live for, and ultimately allows us to face death. Interestingly, what Richard, Matthew and I were able to do together, and indeed did together as one team, was more than what each of us did alone. This became clear when we put our presentation together from our individual pieces, and took what did not work and reworked it (by contributing, listening, debating, building on one another’s insights-contributions) and ended up with a great presentation: a sentiment share by us and our client.
Please notice that I did not need anybody to preach to me on the value of social, or collaboration. Nor did I need people to provide me with social/collaboration tools. Indeed, I did not use any. Email and the phone were sufficient to keep in touch with my colleagues and do that which was necessary.
The Poverty of The Workplace
It occurs to me that the workplace is a place of poverty. What kind of poverty? A poverty of relationships of genuine caring (for one another as fellow human beings), mutual respect, and collaboration. A poverty of that which calls forth the very best of us: beautiful workplaces, meaningful work, climate of solidarity, and a context of love.
Am I alone in this? Look into yourself, look into those whom you know, and answer the questions for yourself:
- would you prefer to work in a beautiful environment or an ugly even bland environment?
- would you prefer to work in an environment of love or one of fear?
- would you prefer to do work that shows up as meaningful work or meaningless work?
- would you prefer to be enmeshed in caring-respectful-collaborative relationships or find yourself enmeshed in relationships of blame-judgement-competition?
Ask yourself what you want to have inscribed on your headstone? “Here lived someone who was loved and loved others, one that made a contribution, touched lives, left behind a better world.” Or would you prefer “Here lies a person who spent their days and their life doing meaningless work in bland/ugly environments full of people who did not care for one another….”?
An Invitation
I share with you two quotes which show up as worth reflecting on:
“What you do today is important, because you are exchanging a day of your life for it.” Unknown
“Living life without making a difference is to be amongst the living dead.” Ron Travisano
I invite you to put love into your relationships, into the workplace, and into the world. I promise you that if you do so then you will enrich existence: yours (as lived-experienced) and all whom you touch. How do I know? Because amidst all the pain that I experienced over the last week, my existence was also rich: all that I was doing was doing for my friend who was counting on me.
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