Some people are optimists, some are realists and others pessimists.
Many believe this is something you are born with, you cannot change it, you either see the glass as half full or half empty.
This is not true!
You can become an optimist, just as you can become successful.
It is all your decision.
Why are people pessimists?
Pessimism comes from a low self esteem or a belief that the world is as the world is, you cannot change it.
This is usually taught to us from a young age. Parents saying, “we are construction workers and will always be construction workers”, “We are poor and their is no room for the poor man in this society”, “You don’t have a future”.
This gets pushed into our subconscious mind and becomes a part of our own self dialogue. We know that we don’t have a future, we know that we can’t work with anything but construction and we KNOW it takes money to make money.
But so many times the opposite has been proved true. People without education, without money, have succeeded.
“That is of course because of outside factors, they were lucky…”
How to change your mental programming
It is your choice to succeed.
You can succeed, you can become successful and it has nothing to do with luck. Not at all.
What is important is that you unlearn these beliefs, you have to unlearn your doubts.
The best way to do that is by learning new believes.
Your inner dialogue
Most of your believes come from your inner dialogue. What you say to yourself and who you tell yourself that you are.
People with a low self esteem often tell themselves that “I can’t do it” “It is to hard” “I shouldn’t/couldn’t/won’t”.
People with a high level of self esteem say instead “I like myself” “I can” “I will”.
One way to learn this is by taking control of your thoughts and make sure they are always positive. Whenever you hear yourself say things like, “I look fat today” or “I am not good”, switch quickly to positive affirmations like “I like myself!”.
It has changed my life
4 years ago I was a self diluting pessimist, I thought I was an optimist but once I started listening to my dialogue it turned out most of it was very negative.
I started changed it, it didn’t go over night, but every time I started being negative I would quickly counter with either “I like myself” “I am happy today” or “I love my work”.
3 months later I had been promoted twice, I was making about 3 times as much as before and most of my personal troubles had evaporated.
Conclusion
By controlling your inner dialogue and confidence the image you show the world will be completely different. It will open doors for you and help you in your success.
It all starts with “I like myself!”.
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